The Star spends, invests, or gives money away to be recognized, feel hip or classy, and increase self-esteem. At worst, you’re pretentious and self-important. At best, you exhibit great qualities of leadership and style. In the next few days, try resisting at least one temptation to buy something in order to garner attention, and see if that feels more or less self-loving than your old, familiar behaviors.

You’re probably a Star if:
• More than 25 percent of your overall spending goes toward clothing, hair, beauty, jewelry, entertaining, body image enhancement, and other items bought primarily to enhance your image (these could but don’t necessarily include cars, furniture, artwork, an elaborate home theater system).
• You seek to be acknowledged for your generosity most of the time.
• You frequently alter your investments to keep up with the latest trends.

Painful Emotional States
Sensitive to criticism
Anxious
Insignificant
Worthless
Lonely
Phony

Common Distorted Thoughts (Conditioned Beliefs from the Past)
Using money to feel classy, elegant, cool, and hip will make me happy.

Liberating Wisdom or Ways to Focus
Making sure my use of money is truly nourishing all parts of me is very important.
Giving to others brings me joy and happiness.
Resisting the temptation to buy something for attention is very self-loving.

Archetype(s) You Most Need to Emphasize to Create Balance
Guardian: alertness, prudence
Innocent: simplicity, adaptability
Caretaker: empathy, generosity
Idealist: vision of the greater good

A Practice

INQUIRE
At the core, most Stars feel a sense of emptiness and worthlessness they’re afraid to examine. When you’re feeling unhappy, do you look to others to cheer
you up, maybe by getting dressed up and going out to a place to see and be seen? Think of the last time you felt a rush of pleasure when someone else paid attention to something about you—perhaps telling you that your outfit looked really good, or that your new flat-screen television was cool, or even that they admired you for a large charitable donation you’d made. Did the experience cause you to crave more of that kind of attention? Did you make any declarations to yourself that might eventually affect your finances?

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